To Make A Change

Where You Want To Reach

Everyone wants to reach somewhere or else but What IF some of us want to reach nowhere in particular in their career.

Is it OK or is it that bad to not tie your life to some goal.

When I changed my job I met few people who have the aim on their first day to get this and that position and then there was me who don't even know what position she wants to reach in future. For a few moments I felt dumb but then I thought, is it really necessary that if I am doing some job or something, then I have to reach the particular position in it.

I always think that I just want to get experience and grow myself with it. Not to reach somewhere, but to make myself more skillful and more better person which can help me in my life and I will eventually reach somewhere where I belong and to reach there doesn't mean I have to know the destination. I am more of a person who go with the flow and if doesn't like the flow, then will try to change it, but I was never sure enough about my destination though.

Now I think that not being sure about where to reach in my career, is it that bad??

Some big people said long time ago that you have to tie your life to your aim or goal, so you can get succeed and reach where you want. Your life should consist some kind of a goal and blah blah blah.

I don't have any particular goal. I just have some thoughts and I just want to learn. I have hope that whatever I do if I do with my whole being then I will learn something new and grow myself with that experience and will reach somewhere eventually. I tie my life to no particular goal. I tie my life to living in the moment, living this time and I am OK with it.

People who love to reach some particular position are also great because they know what they exactly want from life and they try to achieve it by taking effort, but then people like me also exist who don't have any idea about which position they want in their career and I guess it's OK to not know. You don't know where your destiny will take you no matter how good your plan is. That doesn't mean you stop taking efforts, but it's just mean that destiny does matter in some situations and though you know your goal or not, but you have to take effort to move on somewhere, which I am taking.

So the moral of the story is that I still don't know my goal and I am around 27-28 years old, but yes, I am taking effort to be good in whatever I am doing right now and if all goes well then I am sure I will reach where I belong though I don't have any good career plan but I have hope and faith on my efforts. And I am quite sure I am not the only one who don't have any career plan or pre-decided position to reach and If you are one of them then it's OK. Just breath. Do whatever you are doing, but keep moving forward bit by bit. 

You will eventually get somewhere and hopefully it will work for you. Because not all believe to tie their life to the future goals of career, some of us believe to tie their life to present moment, present time. Not everyone wants to fight with the flow to reach their destination. Some are OK to going with it by taking their own pace.

So I guess it's OK to not know where you want to reach, but you should keep moving so you can reach your unknown destination at the end.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Just A Poet

When People Leaves Without Closure

People meet, People stay.

Some stay longer than the others, some stay forever, but some leaves us in the middle of life route.

More often than we think, more often than we want.

They left us with no intention of coming back.

People who are leaving from the middle are mostly those who don't give us any reason or a closure for their Goodbye's, they didn't even says their bye's let alone giving the reasons.

They just suddenly disappear in our life without any closure and left us hanging to the one big troublesome question with so many doubts  i.e What went wrong?? 

There can be many things going wrong or there can be none. You don't know. Because that person never said his Goodbye to you properly.

That person came like wind and gone like storm by creating havoc in your life and somewhere he/she somewhat ruined your trust on relations.

That person can be anyone. Some unknown stranger to some closet guy or girl you had, some family member to some friend or may be your next door neighbor...it can be anyone. It shouldn't necessarily be your boyfriend or girlfriend only. I mean seriously..we have more relations than that in our life and those relations also leaves us many times without their Goodbye's.

You can't be known the exact reason of their departure unless that person again comes to your life and tell you about it.

But life is not a movie where suddenly after years of leap you guys will meet somewhere and clear your doubts and will be fine.

No....

It's reality. There is a 1 percent chance that maybe you will meet that person again, but for that 1 percent you shouldn't spoil your life's 99 percent to just wondering with questions like was it your mistake, was it you who failed to understand something, was it you who did something wrong, and mainly what went wrong and to find the answer of these questions you are making your world upside down, does this even worth it. Does it worth  when the other person who left you may be don't even give a shit about it and already moved on.

Yes, of course, there can be genuine reasons for their sudden run away that they can't tell you, but you don't know it's actually true or not, so keeping a hope that there is  may be a good reason, if you know that person so deeply is OK, but don't hang on hopes that deep down you know are false and don't stop your life to wait for them in hopes  of sorting things out when they come back. Because what if they don't... 

What if they never wanted to come back again by their own free will.

It's tough, but you have to accept that their part in your story has been ended. And you must turn the page now. There are many other characters are in queue which needs to be enter in your life so your story can go on. Staring that old page and not reading further story will do you no good so turn the page and read the next chapter of your life. Don't hang on to your unanswered questions for too long, you may never get the answers anyways...

You, I, all should understand that we don't get a closure always , We don't get a second chance always but that shouldn't stop us to move on from that person who never looked back and leave us for no valid reason.

Because if that person knows your importance he/she would have never left you hanging on with false hopes and doubts and so many unanswered questions. And in case they will meet you in the future by your 1 percent luck, then it's not necessary that they will become part of your life again. Because you want to believe it or not, but their part in your story has ended long time back and their sudden meet can be just a coincidence to show you your past relation, a memory to glance back. It doesn't have to be part of your story again if you don't want  it to be.

Remember, A person who can leave you without telling a reason, without giving a closure once can leave you again...and again... So if you meet in the future and he/she asks for second chance then give it wisely.

People not meant to stay forever because death anyhow makes them apart, but living and still leaving without a closure or a reason is a 'very good reason' to say that person a 'No' and to block their entrance in your story.

At the end It's your decision, but I will suggest don't waste your 99 percent of your life for that 1 percent who may never come back or who can leave you again.

Move on... Because time and life never stop.

You are more than that 1 percent who left you. You are that 99 percent who can make themselves a better human being without that one person and though you may not be your 100 percent, you still would be enough of your own.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.