Compromises

To make any relationship work we all have to do some kind of small or big compromises.

Compromising in a relationship is not a bad thing rather, it's a necessity.

But you have to check once in a while that is it really worth it? 

All the compromises you are doing to make your relationship work, to make it better, all your efforts do get their worth at the end and most importantly, whether they are made by both the sides or you are the only one who is doing it every time.

It's obvious that no matter how close two people are or how same they are in way of behaving or thinking there will be always this little thing which will be different. Being different from each other it's not a problem rather than its a nature, it makes us alive, a human. We complement each other by being different And taking efforts to make that relationship work and making sacrifices or compromises for it, is a necessity. It shows that you value the other person or your relation and wanted to keep it intact. But if you are the only one who is doing it every time and the other one is just let you keep doing it, then you should take a halt and think a bit more about it.

Compromises are not actually a burden when done by both the sides but it's a solution to many of our problems. It's up to you how you look at it or handle it.

For example, after marriage Man and woman, both have to make many compromises for each other to make their relationship work. But most of the time woman compromise more than a man in many situations or sometimes only she is the one who is compromising for all her new relations.

Like if she was used to outing or partying with her friends, then after marriage if her husband doesn't like it or allow it, then she stop it, but if the same thing is happening with man then he won't change his way. He doesn't need a permission nor he cares what his wife wants to say in it. He will keep living the way he was before marriage. Is it really fair??? Where is the equal compromising on both the sides?? It's nowhere...and it happens. I am not saying that every man is like that or every time only woman make compromises. I just gave a general and most common example we see in our life. It's not only about marriage, but it's about every relation we have in our life.

If you really value the other person and your relation then there is nothing wrong to compromise, but just see that it's not one sided. You should have some of your self respect with you. Don't lose your value in the process of over valuing the other person. It may or may not make your relationship better, but it sure can make you bitter.  Know when to stop doing it and when to appreciate the other person's compromises for you no matter how small or big it is. Relations not work without bit of a compromise, but when done by both the sides. So make it work, but don't lose yourself and your self respect in it. Sure, make compromises, but wisely.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.