First Impression

"First impression is the last impression", I am sure we all heard this phrase.

I heard it more than my liking and sometimes I  act accordingly to it, but most of the times I don't.

Because making a whole opinion about someone just by that one good or bad first impression seems so unfair to me and I try as much as I can to not do so.

I mean, sure it does have truth when you get the once in a lifetime opportunity or in corporate or business world where there is a cut throat competition and you have to prove yourself better than others. In such places, in such situations this phrase suits where you get this one chance and you have to make it your best by putting your all into it. You have to make that first everlasting impression. True!!!

But the problem is we often mix this phrase with our personal life too. We meet someone and at first glance if we don't like that person or if we talk with him or her for few minutes, but didn't find him or her interesting then we just start to avoid them or try to keep as minimal contact as possible next time.

But it's not necessary that because his or her first impression was not good on you it should be that way forever. People, try to give chances to other people as much as possible. twice, thrice and as many times you can give. Not unlimited chances, but the chances you possibly can give someone, at least give that much. Because humans are not some robots who will have the same mood and code all over their lives until their battery is dead. 

For example, you meet this boy and he was going through some financial issues and was tense and wasn't in the mood to talk when you first met him. You didn't know about his mental condition so as a nice person you initiated the talk, but you got cold responses , so you assume that he was the quiet, rude and bore person whom you can never get along with and just like that he was out of your list. You made your opinion and next time when he comes in front of you, you just try to avoid him. But in reality he was the most fun loving and caring person you will ever meet if you could just give him a second chance, some space and time to mingle with you. Not every person can get easily mixed with people. Everyone takes their own pace to get attached to people. Just because you can get easily mingle with unknown people doesn't mean the other person also has to. It may take a while for them to be on the same page.

Don't judge all the people on their first impressions when it comes to the relations. When it comes to your or their personal life. Because when you give enough chances to the other person then only you can come to know what kind of human being they are exactly is. In some cases you can believe in your guts of first impression that yes, this person is bad, but in other cases you should give a chance and time to people before judging them or making any final opinion about them.

It's not necessary that first impression should be the last impression every time. It's last impression when you decide it to be the last. Otherwise one person can make as many as impressions on you if you allow them to. First is not the last and it shouldn't be the last.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.