Comfort Zone

First Impression

"First impression is the last impression", I am sure we all heard this phrase.

I heard it more than my liking and sometimes I  act accordingly to it, but most of the times I don't.

Because making a whole opinion about someone just by that one good or bad first impression seems so unfair to me and I try as much as I can to not do so.

I mean, sure it does have truth when you get the once in a lifetime opportunity or in corporate or business world where there is a cut throat competition and you have to prove yourself better than others. In such places, in such situations this phrase suits where you get this one chance and you have to make it your best by putting your all into it. You have to make that first everlasting impression. True!!!

But the problem is we often mix this phrase with our personal life too. We meet someone and at first glance if we don't like that person or if we talk with him or her for few minutes, but didn't find him or her interesting then we just start to avoid them or try to keep as minimal contact as possible next time.

But it's not necessary that because his or her first impression was not good on you it should be that way forever. People, try to give chances to other people as much as possible. twice, thrice and as many times you can give. Not unlimited chances, but the chances you possibly can give someone, at least give that much. Because humans are not some robots who will have the same mood and code all over their lives until their battery is dead. 

For example, you meet this boy and he was going through some financial issues and was tense and wasn't in the mood to talk when you first met him. You didn't know about his mental condition so as a nice person you initiated the talk, but you got cold responses , so you assume that he was the quiet, rude and bore person whom you can never get along with and just like that he was out of your list. You made your opinion and next time when he comes in front of you, you just try to avoid him. But in reality he was the most fun loving and caring person you will ever meet if you could just give him a second chance, some space and time to mingle with you. Not every person can get easily mixed with people. Everyone takes their own pace to get attached to people. Just because you can get easily mingle with unknown people doesn't mean the other person also has to. It may take a while for them to be on the same page.

Don't judge all the people on their first impressions when it comes to the relations. When it comes to your or their personal life. Because when you give enough chances to the other person then only you can come to know what kind of human being they are exactly is. In some cases you can believe in your guts of first impression that yes, this person is bad, but in other cases you should give a chance and time to people before judging them or making any final opinion about them.

It's not necessary that first impression should be the last impression every time. It's last impression when you decide it to be the last. Otherwise one person can make as many as impressions on you if you allow them to. First is not the last and it shouldn't be the last.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Imperfectly Perfect

Far Away Love

She knew that she didn't have a chance with him.

Still, she loved him with all her heart.

He never gets to know about her one sided love, but she didn't feel the need to tell him.

Because she knew that you don't have to confess your love always, sometimes it's enough to do it from far away.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Sympathy Vs. Empathy

Need Vs. Want

Her Hate

She knew she should hate him as he broke her heart,

But despite of everything she unable to do so.

She may no longer like or love him anymore, but she understood after long fighting with herself,

That she will never be able to hate him.

Her hate for him is not as strong as her love after all.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

A Note : To Self and To You

If You Paid For Every Word You Spoke...

Anonymous Relationship

It wasn't love but it wasn't just friendship also.

Deep down she knew that it's something more, but she can't say exactly what.

She hoped that she can give that relationship a proper name but she wasn't sure.

She wasn't sure about anything and everything.

But she knew that some relationships are beautiful without any name too.

Their simplicity, honesty and understanding is enough despite of its anonymity.

And thus she kept and cherished that relation forever.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Compromises

To make any relationship work we all have to do some kind of small or big compromises.

Compromising in a relationship is not a bad thing rather, it's a necessity.

But you have to check once in a while that is it really worth it? 

All the compromises you are doing to make your relationship work, to make it better, all your efforts do get their worth at the end and most importantly, whether they are made by both the sides or you are the only one who is doing it every time.

It's obvious that no matter how close two people are or how same they are in way of behaving or thinking there will be always this little thing which will be different. Being different from each other it's not a problem rather than its a nature, it makes us alive, a human. We complement each other by being different And taking efforts to make that relationship work and making sacrifices or compromises for it, is a necessity. It shows that you value the other person or your relation and wanted to keep it intact. But if you are the only one who is doing it every time and the other one is just let you keep doing it, then you should take a halt and think a bit more about it.

Compromises are not actually a burden when done by both the sides but it's a solution to many of our problems. It's up to you how you look at it or handle it.

For example, after marriage Man and woman, both have to make many compromises for each other to make their relationship work. But most of the time woman compromise more than a man in many situations or sometimes only she is the one who is compromising for all her new relations.

Like if she was used to outing or partying with her friends, then after marriage if her husband doesn't like it or allow it, then she stop it, but if the same thing is happening with man then he won't change his way. He doesn't need a permission nor he cares what his wife wants to say in it. He will keep living the way he was before marriage. Is it really fair??? Where is the equal compromising on both the sides?? It's nowhere...and it happens. I am not saying that every man is like that or every time only woman make compromises. I just gave a general and most common example we see in our life. It's not only about marriage, but it's about every relation we have in our life.

If you really value the other person and your relation then there is nothing wrong to compromise, but just see that it's not one sided. You should have some of your self respect with you. Don't lose your value in the process of over valuing the other person. It may or may not make your relationship better, but it sure can make you bitter.  Know when to stop doing it and when to appreciate the other person's compromises for you no matter how small or big it is. Relations not work without bit of a compromise, but when done by both the sides. So make it work, but don't lose yourself and your self respect in it. Sure, make compromises, but wisely.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

A One Step

We always wanted to do a thing but most of the times unable to do it because we don't have enough courage to do it. We thought unnecessary or necessary scenarios in our head and comes to the conclusion that it can't happen or it will be hard or if I take this decision now then how it will affect my future, it may have a bad impact on it. And most of the time this over thinking led us nowhere. We just stay where we are.

Stop over thinking folks !!! It's not like every time you have to plan everything in and out and then only you should take a decision. Sometimes what you need to do is to just take a one step. A  one little step towards whatever you want to do. Step towards a thing which you are thinking to do for a long time or always wanted to do or maybe it came just a moment ago to your mind. Keep that thing and don't let it slip away for whatever excuses which are coming into your mind.

Because once you take that step you would know that everything ahead of that step becomes more clear and more easier or if not easy at least you are getting more courage and confidence to take the second step now.Miles journey gets completed step by step only. Not every destination you want to reach has plane or cars you know. Sometimes you have no other option but to just a walk. You may feel that it's too far and you can never reach there, but instead of losing hope what you actually have to do is gathering enough courage and confidence to take one small step towards it at a time and you will see that you have already started your journey towards your destination and eventually you will reach there step by step.

We all sometimes need a just one light push so we can take that step, no matter how big or small it is. Sometimes things happen out weirdly in our favour which makes us to take the decision to take that one step and in current scenario this article of mine is a light push towards you to help you and make you understand that no matter how far you want to go or how near you want to stay all you have to do is take a one step. It may be one step forward or backward. It all depends on what you want. But you sure should have taken that step.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

To Make A Change

Where You Want To Reach

Everyone wants to reach somewhere or else but What IF some of us want to reach nowhere in particular in their career.

Is it OK or is it that bad to not tie your life to some goal.

When I changed my job I met few people who have the aim on their first day to get this and that position and then there was me who don't even know what position she wants to reach in future. For a few moments I felt dumb but then I thought, is it really necessary that if I am doing some job or something, then I have to reach the particular position in it.

I always think that I just want to get experience and grow myself with it. Not to reach somewhere, but to make myself more skillful and more better person which can help me in my life and I will eventually reach somewhere where I belong and to reach there doesn't mean I have to know the destination. I am more of a person who go with the flow and if doesn't like the flow, then will try to change it, but I was never sure enough about my destination though.

Now I think that not being sure about where to reach in my career, is it that bad??

Some big people said long time ago that you have to tie your life to your aim or goal, so you can get succeed and reach where you want. Your life should consist some kind of a goal and blah blah blah.

I don't have any particular goal. I just have some thoughts and I just want to learn. I have hope that whatever I do if I do with my whole being then I will learn something new and grow myself with that experience and will reach somewhere eventually. I tie my life to no particular goal. I tie my life to living in the moment, living this time and I am OK with it.

People who love to reach some particular position are also great because they know what they exactly want from life and they try to achieve it by taking effort, but then people like me also exist who don't have any idea about which position they want in their career and I guess it's OK to not know. You don't know where your destiny will take you no matter how good your plan is. That doesn't mean you stop taking efforts, but it's just mean that destiny does matter in some situations and though you know your goal or not, but you have to take effort to move on somewhere, which I am taking.

So the moral of the story is that I still don't know my goal and I am around 27-28 years old, but yes, I am taking effort to be good in whatever I am doing right now and if all goes well then I am sure I will reach where I belong though I don't have any good career plan but I have hope and faith on my efforts. And I am quite sure I am not the only one who don't have any career plan or pre-decided position to reach and If you are one of them then it's OK. Just breath. Do whatever you are doing, but keep moving forward bit by bit. 

You will eventually get somewhere and hopefully it will work for you. Because not all believe to tie their life to the future goals of career, some of us believe to tie their life to present moment, present time. Not everyone wants to fight with the flow to reach their destination. Some are OK to going with it by taking their own pace.

So I guess it's OK to not know where you want to reach, but you should keep moving so you can reach your unknown destination at the end.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Just A Poet

When People Leaves Without Closure

People meet, People stay.

Some stay longer than the others, some stay forever, but some leaves us in the middle of life route.

More often than we think, more often than we want.

They left us with no intention of coming back.

People who are leaving from the middle are mostly those who don't give us any reason or a closure for their Goodbye's, they didn't even says their bye's let alone giving the reasons.

They just suddenly disappear in our life without any closure and left us hanging to the one big troublesome question with so many doubts  i.e What went wrong?? 

There can be many things going wrong or there can be none. You don't know. Because that person never said his Goodbye to you properly.

That person came like wind and gone like storm by creating havoc in your life and somewhere he/she somewhat ruined your trust on relations.

That person can be anyone. Some unknown stranger to some closet guy or girl you had, some family member to some friend or may be your next door neighbor...it can be anyone. It shouldn't necessarily be your boyfriend or girlfriend only. I mean seriously..we have more relations than that in our life and those relations also leaves us many times without their Goodbye's.

You can't be known the exact reason of their departure unless that person again comes to your life and tell you about it.

But life is not a movie where suddenly after years of leap you guys will meet somewhere and clear your doubts and will be fine.

No....

It's reality. There is a 1 percent chance that maybe you will meet that person again, but for that 1 percent you shouldn't spoil your life's 99 percent to just wondering with questions like was it your mistake, was it you who failed to understand something, was it you who did something wrong, and mainly what went wrong and to find the answer of these questions you are making your world upside down, does this even worth it. Does it worth  when the other person who left you may be don't even give a shit about it and already moved on.

Yes, of course, there can be genuine reasons for their sudden run away that they can't tell you, but you don't know it's actually true or not, so keeping a hope that there is  may be a good reason, if you know that person so deeply is OK, but don't hang on hopes that deep down you know are false and don't stop your life to wait for them in hopes  of sorting things out when they come back. Because what if they don't... 

What if they never wanted to come back again by their own free will.

It's tough, but you have to accept that their part in your story has been ended. And you must turn the page now. There are many other characters are in queue which needs to be enter in your life so your story can go on. Staring that old page and not reading further story will do you no good so turn the page and read the next chapter of your life. Don't hang on to your unanswered questions for too long, you may never get the answers anyways...

You, I, all should understand that we don't get a closure always , We don't get a second chance always but that shouldn't stop us to move on from that person who never looked back and leave us for no valid reason.

Because if that person knows your importance he/she would have never left you hanging on with false hopes and doubts and so many unanswered questions. And in case they will meet you in the future by your 1 percent luck, then it's not necessary that they will become part of your life again. Because you want to believe it or not, but their part in your story has ended long time back and their sudden meet can be just a coincidence to show you your past relation, a memory to glance back. It doesn't have to be part of your story again if you don't want  it to be.

Remember, A person who can leave you without telling a reason, without giving a closure once can leave you again...and again... So if you meet in the future and he/she asks for second chance then give it wisely.

People not meant to stay forever because death anyhow makes them apart, but living and still leaving without a closure or a reason is a 'very good reason' to say that person a 'No' and to block their entrance in your story.

At the end It's your decision, but I will suggest don't waste your 99 percent of your life for that 1 percent who may never come back or who can leave you again.

Move on... Because time and life never stop.

You are more than that 1 percent who left you. You are that 99 percent who can make themselves a better human being without that one person and though you may not be your 100 percent, you still would be enough of your own.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Friendship Story

Her Fault

It wasn't her fault that she fell in love with the wrong person.

But it was her fault that though she saw his true colors and intentions, she still chose to be with him.

It's not pure love, it's called blind love.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Untold Breakup

She didn't know how to convince him, to forget about her.

Little did she know, that he was already seeing someone behind her back.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Try To Fix Before Throwing

When something gets broken, then don't always throw it away instantly.

Sometimes just try this crazy method call 'fixing.'

Not every broken piece is deserves to be thrown out.

If you could then you should take some effort and try to fix it.

It could be a thing, a relation , a heart or it could be your very own self.

Just because something bad or unwanted happened with it doesn't mean it can't ever be corrected.

Just look out of the box and think the ways to fix it.

If you try and still not able to fix it, then you may don't have an option but to let go of it, but before doing that at least try to save it first.

Today, people want everything instantly to be repaired that they forgot that some things still take time to heal, to repair.

You cannot fix everything, every time, but you can try to fix some things which deserve a second chance.

Now it's up to you that whether you really want that broken thing back or not like earlier or your life is better when you keep it away from you.

But in case you really want it back then try fixing before throwing it away permanently. 

It will always be your decision to make and be sure to make a correct one.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Inner Demons

He was tired of his constant fighting with his own self.

At one point he knew that he cannot fight anymore...

And so he let his inner demons consumed him, destroy him.

The only satisfaction he had was that he fought till the end.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Love And Like

She was his life.

And for her, he was just one of the part of her life.

He loved her and she only liked him.

Heartbreak was waiting for him at the end and eventually he got it.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Silent Love

Ho loved her silently and so does she.

She wished that he would say something about his feelings towards her and so does he.

Time moves on just like that.

Both were waiting for each other to say something, anything but no one did.

A silent love story finally died a silent death with so many regrets.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Blind Love

She loved him blindly.

   At the end, he proved her blind.

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.

Race Or Walk

Race Or Walk...It's your choice.

Everyone's saying life is a race.

If we don't run will stay behind.

But what if some of us don't want to take part in that race

Like Me...Like You

What if, if we are OK to be staying behind...

What If some of us are OK with our pace and we actually enjoy our walk and don't want to run

Is it that bad to take a walk to move on and not want to run to reach the destination

May be we will be left behind by other people, but is it that bad to be left behind with our own choice

I think life is not only race, but a journey too

And its your and only yours right to decide whether you want to complete that journey by walking or by taking part in the race

In both the options what matters is when you reach your destination, your end and look back then you should be satisfied with your pace and path... the journey you followed till now...

And if you are Happy at the end or even at the start or in case middle of life also , then the option you chose are turning out just fine for you

You just have to choose your way.... it's your journey.. so walk it or race it... Don't listen other people's bullshit... You know your life and your story... And there is no need to give clarification of your choices to others... As far as it's doing good to you and not bad to anyone else 'Be proud of your decision'... Don't shy away to be a hard, slow Turtle...Not everyone wants to be a soft racing rabbit anyway...

Walk Proudly if that's what you want...

--- Copyright © 2018 by Sameera S.